The author discusses the stereotypes of fathers, including those who are always away, workaholic, disciplinarian, oblivious, or divorced.
However, the author's father, a 86-year-old from New Rochelle, NY, grew up with an Italian mother and Jewish Russian immigrant father.
He excelled in athletics, gaining admission to Harvard due to his athletic ability. Later, he moved to L.A., became a successful real estate developer, and met his mom in group therapy.
The author's father is unique for defying stereotypes and being fully present in their life.
After their parents divorced in 1984, he insisted on dual custody, a rare occurrence in that era.
The father was both a mother and father, helping the author with hair, makeup, and conversation skills.
He also taught the author how to hit the ball back over the net during car drives, a skill that helped them overcome shyness.
Despite occasional tempers, the father always apologized for the necessary repairs.
The author uses a visualization to express their love and reassurance after a disagreement.
They share personal experiences with ex-boyfriends and their father's handling of a relationship, including a canceled wedding due to disagreements.
The visualization helps them understand the importance of love and forgiveness.